About Us

I’m a writer from a small town in Oklahoma who studied physics and political science at Stanford and traveled the world in my twenties (mostly the Middle East). My first book was published shortly before our wedding. I’m working on a novel now.

My husband is a Turkish guy (tall, dark, handsome, etc) whom I met while playing pick-up soccer in New York City. He’s one of the calmest and kindest people I know, has a beautiful smile, and he’s amazing with kids. Our eleven collective nieces and nephews are crazy about him. He studied finance at a top university in Turkey, worked on Wall Street for a while (wasn’t a fan), and then taught himself how to do web design and development. We both still play soccer when we can.

We married when he was 30 and I was 33, and we fully expected to have our first kid within the year.

On our Floriday Keys road trip honeymoon.
On our Florida Keys road trip honeymoon. No idea what was ahead of us!

Alas, shortly after the wedding, I was diagnosed with stage III endometriosis. The next four years involved many months of ‘trying naturally,’ two surgeries, one IUI (high-tech turkey baster), the dreaded transition to “Advanced Maternal Age” (i.e., the tender age of 35), and three not-so-great rounds of IVF in Istanbul that resulted in one heartbreaking miscarriage in the fall of 2015 (at about six weeks) and a failed Frozen Embryo Transfer in the summer of 2016.

We moved on to donor embryos through California Conceptions. We pre-paid for up to six tries, with each try (supposedly) having about a 65% success rate, with a cumulative success rate of around 90%. Our first try (two embryos transferred) ended in another miscarriage (blighted ovum at seven weeks) in early 2017. Our doctors said it was probably mostly a lot of bad luck. (Hey, someone has to fall on the crap end of the statistics.)

In the meantime we got a cat, a goofy grey tabby with four white feet. He makes us laugh a lot. 🙂


UPDATE: Our second double embryo transfer resulted in a pregnancy with a boy due March 25, 2018. Ali Julian Dogan was born April 9!

Here’s a longer version of Our Story.



2 thoughts on “About Us

  1. Hi,

    My name is Paige Wallace and I am a Ph.D. student at Florida State University.

    I’m reaching out to you because my current research deals with maternal writing specifically in digital spaces. I’m working to build a digital archive of maternal stories. I believe that some of your posts qualify as the kind of maternal writing the archive is focused on (birth stories, blogs about pregnancy, and post-partum).

    I’d love if you would check out our site where you can see some posts are already archived. We take a screen grab of each post to preserve it in its original form and also link back to the original blog. As you can see the project is only now in the baby stages (pun intended) but we’d be honored to archive posts that you’re willing to share with us.

    You can check out the homepage for a brief rationale behind this project and you can find a more in-depth explanation of the project in the blog post titled “The Archive: How and Why it Began.”

    Thank you for your consideration.

    Paige Wallace
    Ph.D. Student
    English Department
    Florida State University
    Maternal Narrative Archive


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